The best thing any relationship can have is God at the center of it. This means that your relationship is being led by God, and your actions do nothing but shine light on The Almighty. I myself have been blessed enough to be in a relationship with someone for a little over 2 years, and God comes first in all things we do and say. He is always our top priority and our mediator for everything that goes on in our relationship.
When you have two people in a relationship who go straight to God for
everything, it’s the perfect relationship. God should be at the center of
everything you do.
So how do we do this? When we choose to pursue a relationship with someone
who is a follower of Christ like us, how do we keep the relationship
Christ-centered? Lucky for you, I have some tips:
1) Remember that God’s love is the best you’re going to
get.
Sometimes when we get into a relationship with
someone, it is so easy to get caught up into that one person. You think that it
is going to be your fairy-tale relationship/marriage, so you rely on that
person’s love for everything. But you have to realize that, only God and His
love can truly fulfill all of your needs and wants. God gives you love and
comfort like not human on this earth ever can. When entering into a relationship
with someone, make sure that you are content & confident in your
relationship with The Lord. Realize that His love for you is abundant and it’s a
love that no person can beat. Never rap your identity around a guy! Always put
God’s love first & foremost!
“Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his
friends.” - John 15:13
2) Pray, pray, pray. Alone or together!
Pray about your dating relationship. You know that
saying, “Let go and let God?” Yeah. This applies here, girls. Talk to God about
the problems that arise & let Him handle it. Prayer is the best thing you
can do! Thank The Lord that He has given you a special someone to spend your
time with. Rarely do we ever thank God for the little things in life. This is
your chance to do it. Let God in, and He will guide your relationship exactly
where it is supposed to go. While your individual prayer life in a relationship
is important, it is also good to pray with your boyfriend or husband. Praying
together, means experiencing God together. Learn about one another’s prayer
styles (Yes, people do pray different ways. Ex. I write my prayers..), and help
each other long. Grow with one another through prayer by building up traits such
as trust, love, and forgiveness.
“Continue steadfastly in prayer, being watchful in it with thanksgiving.”
-Colossians 4:2
3) Talk about God & Read the Bible together.
Make a serious effort bringing God into your
conversations. This way, it will not only keep The Lord on your minds, but it
will help you discover more and more about the other person and their beliefs. I
mean, come on, what gets any better than talking about God with the one you
love? Discussing The Lord allows you to expand on each other’s knowledge and
confidence. Reading the Bible, in my opinion, is crucial to having a God focused
relationship. God gave us the Bible to study it, to learn from it, to learn
about Him through it, and to use and share it as an everyday tool. If you don’t
know His word, and if you aren't educated on The Lord and His mindset, then how
can you truly have a relationship centered around Christ? Try reading the Bible
together. My boyfriend and I have made the choice to read the Bible from cover
to cover. It is fun, spiritual, and who knows? Different verses or pieces of
Scripture could help you along the way in your relationship.
“The Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall
meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all
that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you
will have good success.” - Joshua 1:8
4) Serve by getting involved in the community or your
church.
Make sure that your boyfriend and you are 100%
active in the body of Christ. Your actions are way more important than the words
you speak. Serve Him; that is what He has called us all to do. Shine light on
His Kingdom together. It will make you feel good, it will make other
people feel good, and most importantly, it’ll make God feel good. Sharing
God’s love with other people is one of the best feelings. So go out and do some
volunteer work, donate money, clothes, etc. to a charity, contact a nonprofit to
see what you can do. It is simple things like this that will uplift and motivate
you as a couple, as well as other people.
“As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good
stewards of God’s varied grace: whoever speaks as one who speaks oracles of God;
whoever serves, as one who serves by the strength that God supplies- in order
that in everything God may be glorified through Jesus Christ. To him belong
glory and dominion forever and ever. Amen.”- 1 Peter
4:10-11
5) Touchy subject: If you’re dating, be careful with physical
affection.
God created physical affection to be good. But be careful
in how much physical permission you give once another. A relationship can turn
sinful as soon as you know it if one little slip-up happens. Believe me when I
tell you to: stay pure. It will save you from a whole
lot of trouble. If you feel guilty for your actions, it is a good indication—a red
flag—that you are going too far. Avoid physical actions that would cause lustful
thoughts. Wait till marriage to have sex. What might be innocent and “okay” for
others might be very dangerous and risky to you…
“Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside
the body, but the sexual immoral person sins against his own body.”- 1
Corinthians 6:18
6) Have a blast praising and glorifying The
Almighty.
Simply have a good time. Remind yourself that God
is with you every step of the way. When you and your partner get alone, praise
God and thank Him that He has given you the opportunity to help build one
another up. Rarely do we ever stop and thank God for the little things in life.
He wants to be thanked…He wants to be praised! So do it! Trust God and know that
God has your back. He wants the best for both of ya.
“Praise the Lord! Praise God in His sanctuary;
praise Him in His mighty heavens! Praise Him for His mighty deeds; praise Him
according to His excellent greatness! Praise Him with trumpet sound; praise Him
with lute and harp!”-Psalm 150:1-6
7) Show the love of Christ to each
other.
Make sacrifices for each other. Serve one another.
Go to a sporting event. Go get some ice cream. Go ice skating. Watch a movie.
Put one another above yourselves. Find tiny ways to surprise the person and show
your affection and love toward them. You know all of those lessons of love and
peace God has shown you over the years? Use those as your examples. Use those
examples and the morals you took from them, and bring that love to your
boyfriend.
“Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever
loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know
God, because God is love.”-1 John 4:7-8
8) Last one. Keep in mind that God is real
Being in a relationship with someone you love, can
bring you such great joy and happiness to your life. But remember that God’s
love is something so phenomenal, so astonishing, so extraordinary, you do not
want to miss out on it. God is real. His love is real. God is love. His
forgiveness is real. His promises are real. God’s love is perfect. Let His love
reign in your relationship. Let the love between your partner and God be a
banner to the world displaying God’s goodness!!!
“For invisible attributes, namely, His eternal power and divine nature,
have been clearly perceived ever since the creation of the world, in the things
that have been made. So they are without excuse.”-Romans
1:20
Hopefully these tips will help you all in your relationship. Remember to
focus on Him. Find someone who is going to hop on board with you, and fully
commit to The Lord with you. I am beyond blessed enough to have someone that is
just as in love with Jesus as I am. We have the greatest relationship because we
focus all of what we have…on Him, and that’s the best decision anyone could ever
make when they are with someone.
God Bless, ladies!
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