1) Settling:
To accept or agree to (something that one considers to be less than satisfactory). Settling usually occurs after a long period of being single (or a short period, depending on the person), and we’ve decided, “Waiting on God,” is taking too long.
We start getting nervous thinking of the prospects (or loss of prospects), our age and all the other what ifs. God is not a God of settling, He is a God that has always given more than the best to His children. We decide if we settle, not God.
To accept or agree to (something that one considers to be less than satisfactory). Settling usually occurs after a long period of being single (or a short period, depending on the person), and we’ve decided, “Waiting on God,” is taking too long.
We start getting nervous thinking of the prospects (or loss of prospects), our age and all the other what ifs. God is not a God of settling, He is a God that has always given more than the best to His children. We decide if we settle, not God.
You
are not missing out; you are getting in position for God to bring the right one
to you, in His timing. Anything less than that will
inevitably fail and bring unnecessary heartbreak.
2) Blind
to Red Flags:
Lacking perception, awareness, or discernment.
In
order to not be blind to the red flags, you must be very clear on what the
red flags are to you in a person and/or a relationship.
Also, be aware of blind spots in your relationships in the past, in order
to avoid them in the future. Remember, old ways won’t open
new doors. I will list some common red flags that you
should be alert to.
Common
Red Flags:
Easily
angered
Controlling
Jealous
Critical
of you
Inconsistent
Lies
(even white lies)
Unreliable
3) Dating a Lukewarm Christian:
“He’s kinda a Christian. He says he loves God.”
Have
you ever thought that when you were interested in someone?
“Lukewarm
people don't really want to be saved from their sin; they want only to be saved
from the penalty of their sin.”-Francis
Chan
You
will know a lukewarm Christian man when you observe him. Some may
be more stealth at hiding their luke-warmness, but the proof is in his fruit!
Check his fruit, not his mouth. A lukewarm Christian man will be incapable of leading you anywhere but to him, so be extremely cautious.
Check his fruit, not his mouth. A lukewarm Christian man will be incapable of leading you anywhere but to him, so be extremely cautious.
One
of my favorite poets is, Janette Ikz. In her poem, “I Will Wait
for You,” she hits the nail on the head.
“So it seemed
that it was cool, for everyone to be in a relationship but me.
So I took matters into my own hands, and ended up with him.
Him who displayed the characteristics of a cheater, a liar, an abuser, & a thief.
So I took matters into my own hands, and ended up with him.
Him who displayed the characteristics of a cheater, a liar, an abuser, & a thief.
So why was I
surprised when he broke into my heart?
I called 911, but I was cardiac arrested for aiding and abetting,
Cause it was me who let him in…
Claiming we were “just friends”.
It was already decided for me by the first date, that even if he wasn’t!
I was gonna make him ‘The One’
You know, I was tired of being alone.
And I simply made up in my mind, that it was about that time,
So I decided to drag him along for the ride,
Cause I was always the bridesmaid & never the bride.
A virgin in the physical, but mentally just a grown woman on the corner in heat!
Who was tired of the wait!
So I was gonna make him ‘The One’.
He had a… form of Godliness… but not much.
But hey, hey I can change him! So (honey) I’ll TAKE him, I mean he’s close… enough.
I called 911, but I was cardiac arrested for aiding and abetting,
Cause it was me who let him in…
Claiming we were “just friends”.
It was already decided for me by the first date, that even if he wasn’t!
I was gonna make him ‘The One’
You know, I was tired of being alone.
And I simply made up in my mind, that it was about that time,
So I decided to drag him along for the ride,
Cause I was always the bridesmaid & never the bride.
A virgin in the physical, but mentally just a grown woman on the corner in heat!
Who was tired of the wait!
So I was gonna make him ‘The One’.
He had a… form of Godliness… but not much.
But hey, hey I can change him! So (honey) I’ll TAKE him, I mean he’s close… enough.
I will no longer
date, socialize or communicate with carbon copies of you
To appease my boredom or to quench my thirstiness I have for attention
And short-lived compliments from ‘sorta kindas’.
You know….
He ‘sort kinda’ right, but ‘sorta kinda’ wrong?
His first name LUKE,
His last name WARM.
I, I won’t settle for false companionship
I won’t lay in the embrace of his arms.”
To appease my boredom or to quench my thirstiness I have for attention
And short-lived compliments from ‘sorta kindas’.
You know….
He ‘sort kinda’ right, but ‘sorta kinda’ wrong?
His first name LUKE,
His last name WARM.
I, I won’t settle for false companionship
I won’t lay in the embrace of his arms.”
4) Peer/Family Pressure:
I’m sure you have been at a family function and had someone ask,
“So
are you dating anyone?”
You
reply with a, “no,” quickly to move it along.
Meanwhile
everyone’s ears have perked up to hear your answer. In your mind
your thinking “Move along there’s nothing to see here.”
Everyone
around you is getting in a relationship so you should too. Don’t
feel pressured to go on a blind date that your friend wants to fix you up
with, or go online dating because well, there’s that Christian
site “Christian Mingle.”
God
see’s you, all of you. Stay the course because the one for you
will come. Continue to seek His Kingdom and His Righteousness first.
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